大家好，这里是湖北理工学院外国语学院英语调频广播台，我是主播邵俊铷。世界上有一种专门拆散亲子关系的怪物叫做成长。我们也曾像胶水一样粘在父母身上，但岁月是溶解剂。可家是我们一生的贪婪，处理好亲子关系是我们一生中重要的环节。下面让我们一起来听听下面的讲座吧！
首先让我们先来了解一下这篇文章里出现地一些重点词汇：
Rebellious[rɪˈbeljəs]adj反叛的，叛逆的
yearning[ˈjɜːrnɪŋ]V渴望n向往
self-righteous[ˌself ˈraɪtʃəs]adj自以为正直的
prerequisite[ˌpriːˈrekwəzɪt]n前提adj先决条件的
introverted[ˈɪntrəvɜːrtɪd]adj内向的; 不喜欢交往的;
Parent-child relationship lecture
关于正确处理好亲子关系
Dear parents,
How do you do! Thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to attend this parents' meeting. Meanwhile, I would like to express my sincere gratitude to you for your long-term support and help to our school. For children's learning, for children's progress, for children's tomorrow, we get together again. Rebellious period is the growth of the children a very important stage, most of the students are familiar with the school and the family of all, lost a lot of curiosity and yearning, they think they have grown up, self-righteous, do not want others to tube bundle, however it is adolescence, the crucial stage of psychological development, the student is in a stage of blind self-confidence, work, learning interest, with the mood, Rebellious psychology is stronger, and even specialized parents and teachers against, in order to show their own personality. Therefore, we hold this parents' meeting, the main purpose is also to hope that parents know more about their children's performance at school, strengthen the relationship between you and the school, hope that parents further cooperate with teachers, do some work, let the children learn better, achieve better results!
尊敬的各位家长：
你们好！感谢大家在百忙之中抽时间来参加本次家长会，同时对各位家长长期以来对我校工作的大力支持和帮助，表示真诚的谢意。为了孩子的学习、为了孩子的进步、为了孩子的明天，我们再次相聚到一起。叛逆期是孩子们一个极其重要的成长阶段，大多学生已经熟悉了学校和家庭的一切，失去了很多好奇与向往，他们认为自己已长大，自以为是，不希望别人多管束，然而这又是青春期，心理发育的重要阶段，学生处于一种盲目自信的阶段，做事、学习凭兴趣，凭心情，逆反心理更强，甚至专门和家长与老师作对，以此显示自我个性。所以，我们召开这个家长会，主要目的也是希望家长多了解孩子的在校表现，加强你们和学校之间的联系，希望家长进一步配合老师，做好一些工作，让孩子们学得更好，取得更好的成绩！
The theme of our lecture today is around parent-child relationship: parents should learn to listen to their children's aspirations. It's human instinct to talk. The listener needs to be ready to understand and accept. The communication barrier between parents and children largely comes from the lack of listening, which not only reflects the misunderstanding of parents' educational concepts, but also reflects the psychological dilemma adults face under the pressure of a highly competitive society. So, we can say here -- the failure of communication between parents and children is due to not listening.
我们今天讲座的主题就是围绕亲子关系的：《家长要学会倾听孩子的心声》。倾诉是人的本能。而倾听者则需准备好理解和接纳之心。亲子之间的沟通障碍很大程度上来自倾听缺失，这既折射出当今父母在教育观念上存在的误区，也反映了高竞争社会压力下，成人面临的心理困境。那么，我们在此可以这样说－－亲子之间的沟通失败，是缘于没有倾听。
Thefollowing are negative impact caused by the lack of listening
那么倾听缺失造成的负面影响有
1. Generation gap. Children will gradually be reluctant to communicate with you, Because you don't understand the child's inner world, for his feelings, ideas are not too understand, and the child is gradually alienated from you, you will lose the best opportunity to help and educate children。
1、产生“代沟”。孩子将渐渐地不愿与您进行交流与沟通，因为您不了解孩子的内心世界，对于他的情感、思想都不太了解了，而孩子也渐渐与您疏远了，您也会失去帮助和教育孩子的最佳时机。
2, will make the child's personality become withdrawn. Because you usually ignore to listen, will also have a negative impact on the child's psychology, the child will think that you do not care about him, so also unwilling to communicate and exchange with others. He will gradually shut himself off and become introverted.
2、会使孩子的性格变得孤僻。由于您平时忽视了倾听，还会对孩子的心理造成负面的影响，孩子会认为您对他的不关心，从而也不愿与他人进行沟通与交流。他会逐渐地把自己封闭起来，性格也会变得内向。
3, will make the children's academic performance decline. As the child's personality gradually changes, it will eventually affect the child's academic performance. Children will think that no one cares about them, so as to lose confidence in learning, especially those who are introverted, their academic performance will decline significantly. What's more, there are quite a few children who don't listen to others in class.Especially in class, children will not listen to the teacher. And this is one of the main reasons why children do poorly in school.
3、会使孩子的学习成绩下降。由于孩子的性格逐渐发生变化，最终还会影响到孩子的学习成绩。孩子会认为自己没有人关心，从而失去学习的信心，特别是那些性格本来就较为内向的孩子，学习的成绩下降得会非常显著。更为重要的是，在课堂上，有相当一部分的孩子是不会倾听别人的话，特别是在课堂上，孩子也不会去倾听老师的课了。而这正是孩子学习成绩不好的主要原因之一。
Here I still put forward some suggestions to you, because the situation of each family is different, the environment of the child is more different, so you must not "according to the prescription of medicine" you should have a choice, choose, choose for you and your child's method of education, so that it will get twice the result with half the effort.
在这里我还是向您提出一些建议，因为每个家庭的情况不同，孩子所处的环境更不同，所以您千万不能“照方抓药”您应该有所取舍，有所选择，选择适合您及孩子的方法进行教育，这样才会起到事半功倍的效果。
Tip 1: Treat them equally
This is a prerequisite for your willingness to listen. Only if you treat your child as an equal in the family, can you listen to his words and understand his inner world.
建议一：平等对待
这是您愿意倾听的话的前提条件。只有您在家庭中平等对待孩子，您才可能去倾听孩子的话，了解孩子的内心世界。
Tip 2: Respect your child
One of the main reasons why some parents often don't want to listen to their children is that they think what their children say and ask questions are very childish and sometimes even ridiculous. This is not right, as a child growing up, the outside world is very strange to him, so he is very curious.
建议二：尊重孩子
一些父母常常不愿倾听孩子的话语的一个重要原因之一，就是认为孩子说的话，提的问题是非常幼稚的，有时甚至是可笑的，而不愿倾听孩子的话。这是不对的，作为一个正处于成长过程中的孩子来说，外界对他来说是非常奇妙的，所以他非常好奇。
Tip 3: Be patient
Now parents work pressure, survival pressure is very big. During the day, it is not easy to keep busy with work and housework and children. That's one of the reasons some parents don't listen to their kids, and that's what some parents find in a sense the most appropriate reason. However, children will not think so, they not only need you from life, material care about them, more need you from the psychological, ideological, emotional care about them.
建议三：要有耐心
现在的父母工作压力，生存压力都非常大。白天忙完工作还要忙家务，忙完家务还要忙孩子，的确非常不容易。这也是一些父母不愿倾听孩子的原因之一，也是一些父母找到的最恰当的理由。然而，孩子却不会这么想，他们不仅需要您从生活上，物质上关心他们，更需要您从心理上，思想上，感情上关心他们。
文章来源于百度文库
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